|Posted by Anna H. on September 25, 2013 at 12:15 AM|
This was my Xanga blog from January 21, 2013.
There are different types of criticisms, that exists. Constructive criticism is only 1 example. As I already mentioned in my latest Pulse, I am bringing up the topic of people, who can't handle constructive criticism.
Constructive criticism is not about trying to insult something or someone. It is about giving both positive and negative feedback. However, negative feedback regarding constructive criticism is about focusing on fixing flaws.
In a way, this can somewhat apply to the increasing amount of facebook narcissism. Most narcissists, who currently use that site are entitled, spoiled brats. They expect everyone to constantly agree about every and any little thing like good Yes Men and Women by constantly clicking the "like" button.
Being a Yes Man or Woman can actually do more damage than good sometimes. When someone encounters another person, who disagrees and dislikes what that particular person said or did, the other person starts throwing a temper tantrum like a baby in its terrible 2's.
When I took Creative Writing classes in high school and college, we ALWAYS had to do "work shopping." Every student was required to give positive and negative feedback about another classmate's work.
If we disliked someone's poem or story, we had to explain our reason(s) for WHY we disliked it without insulting that classmate and his/her work; We had to detail what needed to be inserted, revised, removed, or expanded without insulting the person and his/her work. Sure, there were some very rude people, but we encounter rude people everyday in society. That's just a part of life.
People, who can't handle constructive criticism usually become extremely defensive and start attacking other people like Cujo. You know the rabid dog from Stephen King's Horror novel and film?
Whenever we encounter those types of people, they usually have anger management issues, a major inferiority complex, and they are viewed as being unapproachable.
Based on what I have seen and learned from some people, they are usually defensive because they're used to most people destroying their confidence. Therefore, they go into Cujo Mode, as a defense mechanism. Otherwise, there are those self-entitled, spoiled brats.
These entitled, hypersensitive, and extremely defensive, spoiled brats must realize, that in the real world, they are not always going to get their way. That being said, they should not expect for everyone to tiptoe around them.
How will they learn anything, if they expect everyone to constantly be Yes Men and Women, who always tiptoe around them?
If people can't handle constructive criticism, they'll never change for the better. Not only that, but these types of people will also repel other people from them. They are normally viewed as being unapproachable.
In addition, some of the biggest nitpickers cannot handle constructive criticism. Ever hear the saying, "You can dish it out but can't take it"? Nitpickers are normally in that category.
Personally, I distance myself from hypersensitive people and nitpickers. I don't have the time and patience to praise Cujo by giving him a doggie treat, when he has done something wrong. I'm not an enabler. I will provide my personal support and opinion, but I refuse to be someone's designated enabler. This especially applies to providing constructive criticism.
Also, whenever I encounter butt hurt people, who require coddling, I wash my hands of them. That may sound harsh, but life is harsh. Everything in life is never going to be and never has been a Kumbaya sing-along.
Sir Thomas Moore's Utopian Communist Philosophy, "Land of Utopia" always was and still is a crock of bullshit. That's all the more reason why I named my chapbook, "It's Not All Bunnies And Sunshine."
Briefly speaking of my chapbook, it is a chapbook consisting of Short Realistic Fiction, as well as Short Horror/Thriller Fiction. It is currently unpublished. Although, I intend on having it published someday.
In the meantime, what are your thoughts?
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