|Posted by Anna H. on February 18, 2014 at 2:35 AM|
How's it going my gumdrops? Now, that you have watched these 2 young men explain their reasons why parties suck, I will give my nearly 32-year-old woman's perspective on why party and so-called "life of the party" people are usually sickening. I haven't done a rant about anything like this, in a while. Therefore, I thought I should address this issue.
Do you remember last Saturday? I briefly mentioned an argument I had with a friend on Valentine's Day. I'm partly to blame for the argument, since I asked him how his birthday went, 2 weekends ago. He said this girl, who he is currently dating, threw him a surprise birthday party (at a bar). I was already aggravated on Valentine's Day, as you all will recall. I became even more aggravated because I detest going to bars/clubs. I told him the amount of money people waste on 1 drink at a bar, they could've bought themselves an entire case at the store for the same price and had more to drink at home. He said most people go for the "social atmosphere." People can be "social" at a friend's house or a sit down restaurant for a simple get together. I hate going to bars/clubs. Most people at those places are sickening. I had to co-host my 10-year high school reunion, 3 years ago at a bar. I know most of my high school friends/classmates are tired of my complaints about our reunion. However, I wasn't the only classmate, who complained about it. I've only been the most vocal. Being at my reunion was like being at a drunken high school house party at the bar. Sure, it was nice being reunited with a few classmates. Meanwhile, I was never a party person and never had to be "the life of the party."
Now, I want you to remove my high school reunion from the equation. I'm all for small group get togethers, which don't require getting shitfaced and sloppy drunk. I love shopping, sitting down, having a nice lunch or dinner, and catching up with friends. I can't help re-iterating how much I detest being at bars/clubs. They usually have the rudest, most dismissive, obnoxious, skeezy, desperate, self-centered, and attention-seeking people.
When I was in college years ago, I had to watch and be a part of some small get togethers with other people's friends. I hate chainsmoking boozehounds blowing their cigarette smoke down my throat because it burns and itches, as well as make my eyes water. I also hate being around obnoxious skanks, who love abusing lesbianism and bisexuality to give men blue balls. My college frenemy from 8 years ago tried kissing me because I was buzzed from drinking some Long Island Ice Tea. She wanted to give my guy friend, who she was dating at the time, blue balls. I hate when girls, especially sluts do this for men's attention. I had to shove that Velma-esque-looking, sorority skank off me. Talk about disgusting. As if being around loud and obnoxious people, who think they are "the life of the party," aren't sickening enough.
"Life of the party" people love being loud and obnoxious. It means they get to be the center of attention at a party, especially at bars/clubs. To All The "Life Of The Party" People: It's okay. We can all see and hear you just fine. Now, sit down, have a nice, cold "brewski," and shut the fuck up, already! They're usually the biggest attention whores regardless of their marital statuses. I have some 30-something-year-old "friends," who are still single like myself, married, and divorced with/without children in their "tweens." Those who are mostly divorcees, baby daddies, and baby mamas are still partying at the bars/clubs like they're still in their 20's. They can't sit still 5 minutes in their own homes because it's "boring" and "depressing." Heaven forbid they sit down, play games, watch TV, or do something else in their homes, that doesn't require getting drunk off their asses every night. And they wonder why their marriages failed and/are still single like myself? Their actions don't match their words, whenever they say they want to be married. I'm still single without children yet I'm more settled down than they are with/without having crumb snatchers. Is this pathetic or what? Then again, they can't meet anyone of quality most of the time at bars/clubs.
This brings me back to my argument with my guy friend, last weekend. I tried explaining to him my reasons, as I explained above. He seems to think he can meet a settled down woman at local dives. My friend justified that he doesn't go to bars/clubs with trashy people and claims to have "classy" friends. I always love whenever someone says they are "classy," if not think that most of their friends are "classy." In actuality, they're typically new money trash. I didn't tell this to my friend. Then again, he stormed off in the middle of our conversation because I brought up some of his friends, that we know. In fact, his last roommate is his best friend AND a past bully of mine from our teenage years. My friend wanted to justify how much my bully changed. That guy is the same asshole from 10-20 years ago.
I tried explaining to my friend about his asshole friend/last roommate, who tried buying me a drink at our class reunion. My friend was dense enough to ask, "That's what you're mad about?" Partly yes. His friend felt the need to name drop an old high school crush of mine, in order to push my buttons, while trying to buy me off with a drink. To people, who don't understand our history, it's hard for them to grasp why I was pissed. I was pissed because most of our student body used to humiliate me over my crush. My past bully, who is friends with my friend, loved instigating, bullying, and defaming me. His friend also blamed me for our class reunion. He blamed me for our class reunion sucking (secretly because I didn't want to talk to him and I declined his drink). Most men buy women drinks at bars because they think it will get them laid. If this was unnecessarily the case at our reunion, he had some other hidden agendas like a few other classmates, who pranked me that night. Maybe had my bully genuinely apologized to me, I wouldn't have been so offended.
My friend can get mad and justify how much my bully has "changed" all he wants. The proof is in the pudding. Most of those people didn't change within a decade for the better. Most of my old high school and college friends are perfect examples. They either changed for the worse, or got worse over time. These are all the more reasons I refuse to go most places with them. Some I haven't spoken to in years and I'm not broken hearted about it. As I've reflected over these latter years, I've realized just how much they annoyed everyone both inside and outside our social circles.
I can't date or be married to a party person, while living in his delusional world, that he's "the life of the party," and always needs to attend parties. We would be annulled or divorced, as soon as we got married. That's if he didn't forget to arrrive at the altar because he was too drunk off his ass from his bachelor party with strippers and hookers, giving him blowjobs the entire night. I'm sure this will offend most people, who bother reading this entry. Regardless, most party people and "life of the party" people are sickening. They're attention whores, who think the entire world revolves around them and whether or not everybody cares to be their personal audience. Do you agree or disagree with what I've said?
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